Where are you going?
I often rave about my GPS, a cherished "gift that keeps on giving". Not only do I love it because of the ease and confidence it offers me in finding my way, but this fabulous little computer also calculates my anticipated time of arrival. I just love that... Short of something catastrophic or a massive detour, I breathe easier knowing when and where I'll arrive at my destination.
But wait, there's more!
In the event of a missed turn, Jill (yes, that's her name) echos the word "recalculating" while identifying an alternate route that will take me to my destination. No judgment or panic, simply: recalculating. Ahhh...anyone who's ridden in my car with me knows first-hand, that I have great affection for my GPS.
On the road to realizing your dreams, there is much to be learned from this nifty little invention.
10 DRIVING TIPS ON THE ROAD TO YOUR DREAMS:
1. Unless you know your destination, a GPS will not be much use to you. You must choose a destination! This is not to say you can't change direction at any time, it just means that in order to receive guidance about where to go, you must begin by choosing which way to head. (By the way, there is of course not a thing wrong with a joy-ride, as long as you don't feel any particular urgency to get anywhere in particular.)
2. When would you like to arrive? Are you traveling, by foot, bike, car...? Take into account how fast you're able to travel for a steady distance, and when you would like to arrive. With a bit of planning, you'll be able to easily assess how soon to set out on your journey and what to pack.
3. Give yourself some extra time so you can stop along the way to refuel.
4. Remember: You are in the drivers seat.
5. Enjoy the ride. Half the fun is getting there.
6. If it feels daunting to go it alone, find others who are heading in a similar direction to join you. (See below for more info on this!)
7. Pace yourself.
8. Glance in the rear-view mirror periodically, but keep your primary focus on what's in front of you.
9. Celebrate each milestone along the way, knowing that every step counts.
10. Don't doubt and question whether or not you'll get there! Just keep going...
Dreaming together creates a very special bond. Similar to how a GPS can guide you to your destination, The Dream Circle guides you to realize your life dreams and goals.
You don't have to use any more precious fuel spinning your wheels. If you are tired of going it alone or know it's time to ask for directions, the Dream Circle will move you forward at an accelerated pace...
"The Dream Circle allows each person to voice their dreams with no fear of put-down. It's exciting to see how seeds developed as each session moved along and witnessing how dreams morph or become far more defined. The inspiration is two-fold. It feels so very good to help others by offering positive, constructive feedback, and in turn that same constructive feedback helps you crystalize your own dream more clearly. Together we created a circle where each other's ideas evolved from concepts, to an outline, to attainability. It was magical." ~ Hilary, Newport, RI
Visit http://createyourlifeinc.com/workshops_retreats.htm to claim one of the few seats remaining in the July/August Dream Circle in beautiful Newport, RI!
May 27, 2010
May 21, 2010
Let me be the first to say CONGRATULATIONS!
Are you feeling stuck, uninspired, or in the midst of a big transition? Are you carrying a dream in your heart that, while inspiring, feels totally out of reach? Does that "well, maybe next year..." voice ring in your head, just like it did last year? If you answered yes, not only are you not alone, but let me be the first to say congratulations! The path to your dreams is closer than you think.
I know that stuck place because that's exactly where I was when I decided that something had to change. As defeated as I felt at times, I knew that only I could take charge and turn my life around. And, it is with sincere joy that I now share inspiration and information to help you do just that.
I'm so excited to extend a very special invitation! I'm leading two Dream Circles this Spring and Summer: May/June in Somerset (FULL), MA and July/Aug in Newport, RI (just a few seats left).
I want to be sure to mention that this is the last time I will be offering this powerful, playful, 5-week, dream-propelling program at this price. An absolute steal.
The Dream Circle guides you through a proven process that will have you not only clear on your dreams, but with access to the support and courage to move forward confidently, taking intentional action to propel you into the experience you desire.
As it says on our website: If you're not sure what you dream of, The Dream Circle helps you identify it. If you have some sense of what you want, The Dream Circle helps you nurture it. And, if you know what you want, The Dream Circle helps you manifest it.
But don't take my word for it, read what participants say...
______________________________
"I arrived for week 1 of the 5-week Dream Circle with a dream of having a studio space to create my artwork - a big upgrade from my dining room table! Things happened so fast! My vision was fully aflame in my heart, but my courage was still just a lone ember. It quickly grew six-fold with the clarity and support of the other Dream Circle members and I realized this didn't have to remain a dream at all. I took action, and was so excited when, on week 5, I hosted our Dream Circle at my new studio!" (Bonnie, Cranston, RI)
"The Dream Circle group format is absolutely the formula that makes this process work. I was so inspired by the dreams of others and even wanted to steal a dream or two at times... At the end of the day, the Dream Circle helped each us find, refine and define our dreams." (Linda, Middletown, RI)
"Tara, we are only in week 1 and the Dream Circle has already been a gift in so many ways! I really feel that it is one of the best things I have done for myself. The space you have created for me to dream has already changed not only my way of thinking, but those around me. Thank you a million times for what you do. You are a gift to everyone." (Johanna, Brown University)
______________________________
Now is "someday" and where ever you are on your dream-realization journey, if this program is calling to you, I hope you'll make the decision and claim one of the few seats remaining in this special program.
We meet one night a week for 2-hours, for 5 consecutive weeks. Consistent feedback from participants has been that they didn't want it to end! In past Dream Circles, some participants started out feeling challenged by the idea of scheduling 5 sessions in their calendar, but once we began, several wanted the program extended 5 more weeks! For now, 5-weeks is it, so I encouraged them to sign up again - and some have done just that!
Oooo...I absolutely love watching what unfolds for people who are ready to dream bigger, bolder, and more freely than ever before! The Dream Circle is a gently structured, intentionally facilitated, mastermind group focused entirely on the realization of your dreams. The format pools the energy, diverse life experiences, insights and ideas of the group, for the benefit of each member -- this accelerates the process for everyone! Friendships are made, and dreams prosper...
Group membership also includes access to an online forum as a way for the group to stay connected between meetings. The online forum alone, has been reported as a powerful source of support for participants! You'll find all the details, including the registration link here.
By design, there are only 6 people per Dream Circle in order to ensure that everyone gets plenty personal attention, and there are only a few spaces remaining. If, by chance, getting there means driving a tad bit further than you usually travel for a workshop, consider: How far would be too far for your dreams?
Now, for those of you who legitimately live too far to participate, like our New Zealand subscribers for example, know that we plan to offer this program as a Webinar too. No date is set on that yet, but please stay tuned...
BONUS OFFER: (I get especially generous when I'm excited!)
As a thank you for being a loyal Create Your Life! subscriber (and for reading this far) you'll also receive a FREE 30-minute Activation Coaching Call to anyone who uses the link below to register in full.
Ok, so that's the scoop. You get a comprehensive 5-week program + a private coaching call with me, all for under $200! Visit http://createyourlifeinc.com/workshops_retreats.htm for all the details and to reserve your seat!
Have questions? Email me: Tara@createyourlifeinc.com
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,
Tara
I know that stuck place because that's exactly where I was when I decided that something had to change. As defeated as I felt at times, I knew that only I could take charge and turn my life around. And, it is with sincere joy that I now share inspiration and information to help you do just that.
I'm so excited to extend a very special invitation! I'm leading two Dream Circles this Spring and Summer: May/June in Somerset (FULL), MA and July/Aug in Newport, RI (just a few seats left).
I want to be sure to mention that this is the last time I will be offering this powerful, playful, 5-week, dream-propelling program at this price. An absolute steal.
The Dream Circle guides you through a proven process that will have you not only clear on your dreams, but with access to the support and courage to move forward confidently, taking intentional action to propel you into the experience you desire.
As it says on our website: If you're not sure what you dream of, The Dream Circle helps you identify it. If you have some sense of what you want, The Dream Circle helps you nurture it. And, if you know what you want, The Dream Circle helps you manifest it.
But don't take my word for it, read what participants say...
______________________________
"I arrived for week 1 of the 5-week Dream Circle with a dream of having a studio space to create my artwork - a big upgrade from my dining room table! Things happened so fast! My vision was fully aflame in my heart, but my courage was still just a lone ember. It quickly grew six-fold with the clarity and support of the other Dream Circle members and I realized this didn't have to remain a dream at all. I took action, and was so excited when, on week 5, I hosted our Dream Circle at my new studio!" (Bonnie, Cranston, RI)
"The Dream Circle group format is absolutely the formula that makes this process work. I was so inspired by the dreams of others and even wanted to steal a dream or two at times... At the end of the day, the Dream Circle helped each us find, refine and define our dreams." (Linda, Middletown, RI)
"Tara, we are only in week 1 and the Dream Circle has already been a gift in so many ways! I really feel that it is one of the best things I have done for myself. The space you have created for me to dream has already changed not only my way of thinking, but those around me. Thank you a million times for what you do. You are a gift to everyone." (Johanna, Brown University)
______________________________
Now is "someday" and where ever you are on your dream-realization journey, if this program is calling to you, I hope you'll make the decision and claim one of the few seats remaining in this special program.
We meet one night a week for 2-hours, for 5 consecutive weeks. Consistent feedback from participants has been that they didn't want it to end! In past Dream Circles, some participants started out feeling challenged by the idea of scheduling 5 sessions in their calendar, but once we began, several wanted the program extended 5 more weeks! For now, 5-weeks is it, so I encouraged them to sign up again - and some have done just that!
Oooo...I absolutely love watching what unfolds for people who are ready to dream bigger, bolder, and more freely than ever before! The Dream Circle is a gently structured, intentionally facilitated, mastermind group focused entirely on the realization of your dreams. The format pools the energy, diverse life experiences, insights and ideas of the group, for the benefit of each member -- this accelerates the process for everyone! Friendships are made, and dreams prosper...
Group membership also includes access to an online forum as a way for the group to stay connected between meetings. The online forum alone, has been reported as a powerful source of support for participants! You'll find all the details, including the registration link here.
By design, there are only 6 people per Dream Circle in order to ensure that everyone gets plenty personal attention, and there are only a few spaces remaining. If, by chance, getting there means driving a tad bit further than you usually travel for a workshop, consider: How far would be too far for your dreams?
Now, for those of you who legitimately live too far to participate, like our New Zealand subscribers for example, know that we plan to offer this program as a Webinar too. No date is set on that yet, but please stay tuned...
BONUS OFFER: (I get especially generous when I'm excited!)
As a thank you for being a loyal Create Your Life! subscriber (and for reading this far) you'll also receive a FREE 30-minute Activation Coaching Call to anyone who uses the link below to register in full.
Ok, so that's the scoop. You get a comprehensive 5-week program + a private coaching call with me, all for under $200! Visit http://createyourlifeinc.com/workshops_retreats.htm for all the details and to reserve your seat!
Have questions? Email me: Tara@createyourlifeinc.com
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,
Tara
April 28, 2010
Planned Coincidences on the Journey From Employment to Entrepreneurship
I was so honored to be a guest panelist at the Emerging Women in Business Conference last week at the University of Rhode Island. The panel topic was Employment to Entrepreneurship: Focus on Your Courage, Not Your Fears.
For those of you who missed it, I shared how some "planned coincidences" helped me make the transition from a job I did not enjoy to a business owner, doing work I am truly passionate about. So as a special offering for those of you with entrepreneurial dreams, I hope these tips will support and inspire you:
* While still at the job I disliked, I began living into my desired future. What I mean by this is... I shifted my attention away from all of what I did not like about my situation, and began taking action that aligned with what I desired.
* A question to consider: "If you knew for certain that in 6 months, 1 year, or 2 years, that your entrepreneurial dream was going to happen, what would you be doing right now to prepare?"
Some of my "planned coincidences" included:
* I anticipated and saw the opportunity of potential lay-off.
* I made intentional efforts to bring my expenses way down as an act of self-care. This minimized stress about having to make money immediately.
* While still at my job, I took coach training courses at night and I began coaching several pro-bono clients to gain experience and referrals.
Did you know? I recently learned that the Latin root of the word "vocation" is "voc" which means "to call". So, a vocation is a calling! Be sure that the path you choose lights you up inside.
And, last but not least, as long as you embark on new experiences and challenge yourself to realize your potential, fear is inevitable. So, rather than trying to eliminate fear, focus on increasing your courage, and be sure to surround yourself with people who believe in you.
"If your dream wasn't already real inside you, you couldn't even dream it."
Gloria Steinem
Joy to you,
Tara Sage Steeves
Founder & President
www.CreateYourLifeInc.com
For those of you who missed it, I shared how some "planned coincidences" helped me make the transition from a job I did not enjoy to a business owner, doing work I am truly passionate about. So as a special offering for those of you with entrepreneurial dreams, I hope these tips will support and inspire you:
* While still at the job I disliked, I began living into my desired future. What I mean by this is... I shifted my attention away from all of what I did not like about my situation, and began taking action that aligned with what I desired.
* A question to consider: "If you knew for certain that in 6 months, 1 year, or 2 years, that your entrepreneurial dream was going to happen, what would you be doing right now to prepare?"
Some of my "planned coincidences" included:
* I anticipated and saw the opportunity of potential lay-off.
* I made intentional efforts to bring my expenses way down as an act of self-care. This minimized stress about having to make money immediately.
* While still at my job, I took coach training courses at night and I began coaching several pro-bono clients to gain experience and referrals.
Did you know? I recently learned that the Latin root of the word "vocation" is "voc" which means "to call". So, a vocation is a calling! Be sure that the path you choose lights you up inside.
And, last but not least, as long as you embark on new experiences and challenge yourself to realize your potential, fear is inevitable. So, rather than trying to eliminate fear, focus on increasing your courage, and be sure to surround yourself with people who believe in you.
"If your dream wasn't already real inside you, you couldn't even dream it."
Gloria Steinem
Joy to you,
Tara Sage Steeves
Founder & President
www.CreateYourLifeInc.com
Let me be the first to say CONGRATULATIONS!
Are you feeling stuck, uninspired, or in the midst of a big transition? Are you carrying a dream in your heart that, while inspiring, feels totally out of reach? Does that "well, maybe next year..." voice ring in your head, just like it did last year? If you answered yes, not only are you not alone, but let me be the first to say congratulations! The path to your dreams is closer than you think.
I know that stuck place because that's exactly where I was when I decided that something had to change. As defeated as I felt at times, I knew that only I could take charge and turn my life around. And, it is with sincere joy that I now share inspiration and information to help you do just that.
I'm so excited to extend a very special invitation! I'm leading two Dream Circles this Spring and Summer: May/June in Somerset, MA and July/Aug in Wickford, RI. Each with only 4 seats left!
I want to be sure to mention that this is the last time I will be offering this powerful, playful, 5-week, dream-propelling program at this price. An absolute steal.
The Dream Circle guides you through a proven process that will have you not only clear on your dreams, but with access to the support and courage to move forward confidently, taking intentional action to propel you into the experience you desire.
As it says on our website: If you're not sure what you dream of, The Dream Circle helps you identify it. If you have some sense of what you want, The Dream Circle helps you nurture it. And, if you know what you want, The Dream Circle helps you manifest it.
But don't take my word for it, read what participants say...
______________________________
"I arrived for week 1 of the 5-week Dream Circle with a dream of having a studio space to create my artwork - a big upgrade from my dining room table! Things happened so fast! My vision was fully aflame in my heart, but my courage was still just a lone ember. It quickly grew six-fold with the clarity and support of the other Dream Circle members and I realized this didn't have to remain a dream at all. I took action, and was so excited when, on week 5, I hosted our Dream Circle at my new studio!" (Bonnie, Cranston, RI)
"The Dream Circle group format is absolutely the formula that makes this process work. I was so inspired by the dreams of others and even wanted to steal a dream or two at times... At the end of the day, the Dream Circle helped each us find, refine and define our dreams." (Linda, Middletown, RI)
"Tara, we are only in week 1 and the Dream Circle has already been a gift in so many ways! I really feel that it is one of the best things I have done for myself. The space you have created for me to dream has already changed not only my way of thinking, but those around me. Thank you a million times for what you do. You are a gift to everyone." (Johanna, Brown University)
______________________________
Now is "someday" and where ever you are on your dream-realization journey, if this program is calling to you, I hope you'll make the decision and claim one of the few seats remaining in this special program.
We meet one night a week for 2-hours, for 5 consecutive weeks. Consistent feedback from participants has been that they didn't want it to end! In past Dream Circles, some participants started out feeling challenged by the idea of scheduling 5 sessions in their calendar, but once we began, several wanted the program extended 5 more weeks! For now, 5-weeks is it, so I encouraged them to sign up again - and some have done just that!
Oooo...I absolutely love watching what unfolds for people who are ready to dream bigger, bolder, and more freely than ever before! The Dream Circle is a gently structured, intentionally facilitated, mastermind group focused entirely on the realization of your dreams. The format pools the energy, diverse life experiences, insights and ideas of the group, for the benefit of each member -- this accelerates the process for everyone! Friendships are made, and dreams prosper...
Group membership also includes access to an online forum as a way for the group to stay connected between meetings. The online forum alone, has been reported as a powerful source of support for participants! You'll find all the details, including the registration link here.
By design, there are only 6 people per Dream Circle in order to ensure that everyone gets plenty personal attention, and there are only a few spaces remaining. If, by chance, getting there means driving a tad bit further than you usually travel for a workshop, consider: How far would be too far for your dreams?
Now, for those of you who legitimately live too far to participate, like our New Zealand subscribers for example, know that we plan to offer this program as a Webinar too. No date is set on that yet, but please stay tuned...
BONUS OFFER: (I get especially generous when I'm excited!)
As a thank you for being a loyal Create Your Life! subscriber (and for reading
this far) you'll also receive a FREE 30-minute Activation Coaching Call
to anyone who uses the link below to register in full.
Ok, so that's the scoop. You get a comprehensive 5-week program + a private coaching call with me, all for under $200! Visit http://createyourlifeinc.com/workshops_retreats.htm for all the details and to reserve your seat!
Have questions? Email me at Tara@createyourlifeinc.com
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,
Tara Sage Steeves
Founder & President
www.CreateYourLifeInc.com
I know that stuck place because that's exactly where I was when I decided that something had to change. As defeated as I felt at times, I knew that only I could take charge and turn my life around. And, it is with sincere joy that I now share inspiration and information to help you do just that.
I'm so excited to extend a very special invitation! I'm leading two Dream Circles this Spring and Summer: May/June in Somerset, MA and July/Aug in Wickford, RI. Each with only 4 seats left!
I want to be sure to mention that this is the last time I will be offering this powerful, playful, 5-week, dream-propelling program at this price. An absolute steal.
The Dream Circle guides you through a proven process that will have you not only clear on your dreams, but with access to the support and courage to move forward confidently, taking intentional action to propel you into the experience you desire.
As it says on our website: If you're not sure what you dream of, The Dream Circle helps you identify it. If you have some sense of what you want, The Dream Circle helps you nurture it. And, if you know what you want, The Dream Circle helps you manifest it.
But don't take my word for it, read what participants say...
______________________________
"I arrived for week 1 of the 5-week Dream Circle with a dream of having a studio space to create my artwork - a big upgrade from my dining room table! Things happened so fast! My vision was fully aflame in my heart, but my courage was still just a lone ember. It quickly grew six-fold with the clarity and support of the other Dream Circle members and I realized this didn't have to remain a dream at all. I took action, and was so excited when, on week 5, I hosted our Dream Circle at my new studio!" (Bonnie, Cranston, RI)
"The Dream Circle group format is absolutely the formula that makes this process work. I was so inspired by the dreams of others and even wanted to steal a dream or two at times... At the end of the day, the Dream Circle helped each us find, refine and define our dreams." (Linda, Middletown, RI)
"Tara, we are only in week 1 and the Dream Circle has already been a gift in so many ways! I really feel that it is one of the best things I have done for myself. The space you have created for me to dream has already changed not only my way of thinking, but those around me. Thank you a million times for what you do. You are a gift to everyone." (Johanna, Brown University)
______________________________
Now is "someday" and where ever you are on your dream-realization journey, if this program is calling to you, I hope you'll make the decision and claim one of the few seats remaining in this special program.
We meet one night a week for 2-hours, for 5 consecutive weeks. Consistent feedback from participants has been that they didn't want it to end! In past Dream Circles, some participants started out feeling challenged by the idea of scheduling 5 sessions in their calendar, but once we began, several wanted the program extended 5 more weeks! For now, 5-weeks is it, so I encouraged them to sign up again - and some have done just that!
Oooo...I absolutely love watching what unfolds for people who are ready to dream bigger, bolder, and more freely than ever before! The Dream Circle is a gently structured, intentionally facilitated, mastermind group focused entirely on the realization of your dreams. The format pools the energy, diverse life experiences, insights and ideas of the group, for the benefit of each member -- this accelerates the process for everyone! Friendships are made, and dreams prosper...
Group membership also includes access to an online forum as a way for the group to stay connected between meetings. The online forum alone, has been reported as a powerful source of support for participants! You'll find all the details, including the registration link here.
By design, there are only 6 people per Dream Circle in order to ensure that everyone gets plenty personal attention, and there are only a few spaces remaining. If, by chance, getting there means driving a tad bit further than you usually travel for a workshop, consider: How far would be too far for your dreams?
Now, for those of you who legitimately live too far to participate, like our New Zealand subscribers for example, know that we plan to offer this program as a Webinar too. No date is set on that yet, but please stay tuned...
BONUS OFFER: (I get especially generous when I'm excited!)
As a thank you for being a loyal Create Your Life! subscriber (and for reading
this far) you'll also receive a FREE 30-minute Activation Coaching Call
to anyone who uses the link below to register in full.
Ok, so that's the scoop. You get a comprehensive 5-week program + a private coaching call with me, all for under $200! Visit http://createyourlifeinc.com/workshops_retreats.htm for all the details and to reserve your seat!
Have questions? Email me at Tara@createyourlifeinc.com
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,
Tara Sage Steeves
Founder & President
www.CreateYourLifeInc.com
March 01, 2010
Fear: Get Used to It?
Fear: "Get used to it"
Last weekend, I led a retreat for a group of women who invited me to Maine. When I arrived, I unpacked my car eagerly, excited about what was to come. I knew my material was strong and I was confident in my abilities to facilitate the group.
On Friday we had a potluck dinner, during which it hit me - unlike past retreats I've led, I didn't know any of these women and they didn't know me. Michelle (whose letter is posted below) had been referred to my website, and invited her friends to join in the weekend. It was trust in Michelle - not me - that brought them there. Gulp.
Sleep eluded me as I turned the Saturday program over and over in my mind. After an early morning rewrite, I opened on Saturday morning by sharing the fear I had faced during the night, as well as some of my personal story (it hasn't always been dreamy, I assure you). Sleep-deprived, humbled, and with fear as my companion, I felt relief as a sense of trust and connection grew in support of what proved to be a phenomenally powerful weekend.
One woman, who had been an actor in New York, shared that she had asked her acting coach what to do about the fear she felt every time she got on stage. His answer was, "Get used to it." How's that for concise?
Fear can be minimized, but it won't disappear entirely. To be bigger than your fear, its presence must be integrated. Expected. Ideally, even welcomed.
There are many who advocate the elimination of fear, but it's important to remember that brave people are not without fear. If they were, what in the world would they need bravery for?!?
Brave people are those who have learned to work with fear. Rather than spend your energy in an attempt to abolish fear, what if you "got used to it" instead?
Fear exists. Maybe it's not an evil culprit that's holding your dreams hostage after all. Maybe fear doesn't need to be eliminated in order to do what you want. Invite bravery to join your fear, and possibilities will abound!
I know that bravery has played a huge role in my own breakthroughs. Now, I am eager and actively seeking the next opportunity to lead a "Birth Your Dreams" retreat to another group that I meet upon arrival. Will it be for you and your circle of friends?
Call on your bravest self today. May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate.
Email Tara@createyourlifeinc.com or call (401) 569-7017.
Will Travel For Dreams
"Birth Your Dreams"Retreat Weekend
Friday evening - Sunday afternoon
Your town, U.S.A
Contact Tara for details.
Thank you so much Tara for creating such an inspiring "Birth Your Dreams" retreat at my home in Maine. I have done a lot of transformational work over the years, but I have never done it with a group of my friends, or in my home (or anyone's home for that matter). I have always paid my fee, showed up at the hotel or training site and did my work with a group of strangers.
But this weekend...was just magical and abundant. Besides the amazing work that you guided us through for ourselves, it enriched and deepened all of the friendships for everyone at the retreat.
Take your work on the road....the world is ready for you. As I get closer to meeting my loving, wiser, older woman, it is always a delight when someone younger than me can be my teacher. You are wise beyond your years and I am proud to have been your student.
With great respect for your gifts,
Michelle Surdoval
Scarborough, Maine
Last weekend, I led a retreat for a group of women who invited me to Maine. When I arrived, I unpacked my car eagerly, excited about what was to come. I knew my material was strong and I was confident in my abilities to facilitate the group.
On Friday we had a potluck dinner, during which it hit me - unlike past retreats I've led, I didn't know any of these women and they didn't know me. Michelle (whose letter is posted below) had been referred to my website, and invited her friends to join in the weekend. It was trust in Michelle - not me - that brought them there. Gulp.
Sleep eluded me as I turned the Saturday program over and over in my mind. After an early morning rewrite, I opened on Saturday morning by sharing the fear I had faced during the night, as well as some of my personal story (it hasn't always been dreamy, I assure you). Sleep-deprived, humbled, and with fear as my companion, I felt relief as a sense of trust and connection grew in support of what proved to be a phenomenally powerful weekend.
One woman, who had been an actor in New York, shared that she had asked her acting coach what to do about the fear she felt every time she got on stage. His answer was, "Get used to it." How's that for concise?
Fear can be minimized, but it won't disappear entirely. To be bigger than your fear, its presence must be integrated. Expected. Ideally, even welcomed.
There are many who advocate the elimination of fear, but it's important to remember that brave people are not without fear. If they were, what in the world would they need bravery for?!?
Brave people are those who have learned to work with fear. Rather than spend your energy in an attempt to abolish fear, what if you "got used to it" instead?
Fear exists. Maybe it's not an evil culprit that's holding your dreams hostage after all. Maybe fear doesn't need to be eliminated in order to do what you want. Invite bravery to join your fear, and possibilities will abound!
I know that bravery has played a huge role in my own breakthroughs. Now, I am eager and actively seeking the next opportunity to lead a "Birth Your Dreams" retreat to another group that I meet upon arrival. Will it be for you and your circle of friends?
Call on your bravest self today. May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate.
Email Tara@createyourlifeinc.com or call (401) 569-7017.
Will Travel For Dreams
"Birth Your Dreams"Retreat Weekend
Friday evening - Sunday afternoon
Your town, U.S.A
Contact Tara for details.
Thank you so much Tara for creating such an inspiring "Birth Your Dreams" retreat at my home in Maine. I have done a lot of transformational work over the years, but I have never done it with a group of my friends, or in my home (or anyone's home for that matter). I have always paid my fee, showed up at the hotel or training site and did my work with a group of strangers.
But this weekend...was just magical and abundant. Besides the amazing work that you guided us through for ourselves, it enriched and deepened all of the friendships for everyone at the retreat.
Take your work on the road....the world is ready for you. As I get closer to meeting my loving, wiser, older woman, it is always a delight when someone younger than me can be my teacher. You are wise beyond your years and I am proud to have been your student.
With great respect for your gifts,
Michelle Surdoval
Scarborough, Maine
January 25, 2010
Tara's Soapbox about Big Steps & Small Steps
As you take your next steps toward the life of your dreams, here's something to consider...
Is your next step a big step or a small step? It's easy to get excited about your next step and make assessments about how BIG a step it will be for you. While I understand the tendency, my advice is not to get worked up about whether or not your next step will be big or small in the course of your journey forward.
Sometimes what you think will be a great big step turns out to be rather uneventful, while what seems small or even sometime unrelated entirely to your dream, turns out to reap rewards you never could have imagined. So, rather than work yourself up into a lather with anticipation, I invite you to simply take a deep breath, and take your next inspired action now, trusting the process and that each step will point you closer and closer in the direction of what you desire.
Celebrating action steps of all shapes and sizes,
Tara
December 28, 2009
Top 10 "Top 10" Lists to Create for 2010!
At Create Your Life! we always have one foot in the future...and the start of a New Year is a great excuse to do a personal inventory and set your sites on the future you are creating for yourself. Jump-start your year!
Top 10 "Top 10" Lists for 2010...
Top 10 lists are a quick glance on a range of topics from Hollywood's best dressed, to current events, to travel destinations and ideas for consideration on personal growth... As 2009 comes to a close and 2010 begins, it's a great time to get out a notebook or journal and create your own Top 10 Lists.
Use these Top 10 lists to remind yourself of what's good and shining about you and your life. Use them to become more aware of what you know and what you can do to make the world a better place. Use them to reconnect with your dreams, to remember what you truly want. Enjoy!
1. Top 10 Things I Love About My Life
2. Top 10 Moments in 2009
3. Top 10 Priorities for 2010
4. Top 10 Ways I Spread Light in The World
5. Top 10 Things That Are Uniquely "Me"
6. Top 10 Books I Want to Read
7. Top 10 Things I'd Like to Do Before I Die
8. Top 10 Reasons for Gratitude in My Life
9. Top 10 Things I Want to Learn
10. Top 10 Activities That Make Me Feel Alive
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
...for a FREE BONUS GIFT, email Tara@createyourlifeinc.com one or more of your Top 10 Lists, and we'll send you a 100 item Life Assessment Tool to support your joy and vitality in the New Year!
Top 10 "Top 10" Lists for 2010...
Top 10 lists are a quick glance on a range of topics from Hollywood's best dressed, to current events, to travel destinations and ideas for consideration on personal growth... As 2009 comes to a close and 2010 begins, it's a great time to get out a notebook or journal and create your own Top 10 Lists.
Use these Top 10 lists to remind yourself of what's good and shining about you and your life. Use them to become more aware of what you know and what you can do to make the world a better place. Use them to reconnect with your dreams, to remember what you truly want. Enjoy!
1. Top 10 Things I Love About My Life
2. Top 10 Moments in 2009
3. Top 10 Priorities for 2010
4. Top 10 Ways I Spread Light in The World
5. Top 10 Things That Are Uniquely "Me"
6. Top 10 Books I Want to Read
7. Top 10 Things I'd Like to Do Before I Die
8. Top 10 Reasons for Gratitude in My Life
9. Top 10 Things I Want to Learn
10. Top 10 Activities That Make Me Feel Alive
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
...for a FREE BONUS GIFT, email Tara@createyourlifeinc.com one or more of your Top 10 Lists, and we'll send you a 100 item Life Assessment Tool to support your joy and vitality in the New Year!
October 12, 2009
Tara at The Oprah Show & The "Dear Oprah" Contest!
JOIN OUR "DEAR OPRAH" CONTEST & WIN!"It's never too late to live your own dream."
~ Oprah
Last week, less than one hour after arriving in Chicago for my cousin's wedding and less than one week after The 4th annual Rhode Island Dream Party™ where I shared my dream of being an Oprah Show Guest, there I was...sitting in the audience of The Oprah Winfrey Show, just feet away from Oprah herself!
While checking into our hotel, I mentioned to the concierge that I wanted to drive by Harpo Studios. Before I knew it, he was on the phone booking tickets, and minutes later a taxi whisked us off to the show! It was so exciting!
Join our "Dear Oprah" Contest!Now that I've been a guest OF The Oprah Show, help me become a guest ON The Oprah Show & you'll be entered to WIN prizes that support your dreams!
First Prize: Valued at over $1,500!
- One free month of "Fortnightly Focus" Coaching with Tara Sage Steeves – 2 sessions, valued at $199.
- A private Peel 'n Pinot Party at Alayne White Spa (Bristol or Providence) for up to 4 women on a Friday night from 6-8pm valid between January and April of 2010, valued at $300.
- A one-hour photo shoot session with Stacey Doyle, plus an online retail gallery, a hi-res DVD of retouched files, and one custom 11 x 14 enlargement, valued at $350.
- A complete production of an audio podcast (up to 2 hours) in Donna Mac’s studio (CD & downloadable), valued at $249.
- A free one-year digital subscription to Aspire Magazine and a sponsor gift package valued at over $400.
- A $25 Gift Certificate for your choice of Create Your Life products or services.
- One month in Own Your Money’s Small Business Success Program, valued at $97.
- Two individual weight loss and eating behavior management phone coaching sessions with Weight Loss Coach, Kathy Jordan, valued at $199.
- Familytopia Package: Includes 1 Dove Real Beauty workshop for up to 10 mother/daughter pairs, 1 ‘Family Moments in a Fast-Paced World’ Familytopia At-Home workshop for up to 10 participants, 1 Family Gratitude Journal and 1 Family “Funny” Box, all valued at over $170.
- An EFT Break Your Glass Ceiling Party with Valerie English for the winner and 6 friends, valued at $300.
- A free one-year digital subscription to Aspire Magazine and a sponsor gift package valued at over $400.
- A signed copy of Tara's book Are You Pregnant With a Dream? valued at $17.95.
- Lisa Tener’s E-kit which includes: The Insider’s Guide to Writing Your Best Book in 60 Days, an 8-week Insider’s Guide workbook, and bonus items, valued at $49.95.
- The Sassy Ladies' Toolkit for Start-up Businesses e-book, valued at $16.95.
- A free one-year digital subscription to Aspire Magazine and a sponsor gift package valued at over $400.
- Write a persuasive letter that begins "Dear Oprah" about your experience at The Dream Party™ and why you think the world needs to know about it. If you have never been to The Dream Party, entries about any Create Your Life! product or service that has helped, inspired, or propelled your dream forward is welcome.
- Email your letter to info@createyourlifeinc.com. Please be sure to include "Dear Oprah" in the subject line.
- All submissions must be received by November 10, 2009 and will become property of Create Your Life, LLC.
- Prizes will be awarded for the three most inspirational letters. First, Second, and Third place winners will be announced on November 30, 2009.
September 14, 2009
A Brief Commentary on Love...
A brief commentary on Love and Fear that may or may not be obvious, but is worth pointing out anyway...
We humans have a cap on our capacity to feel fear. I mean, really. There's only so much fear we can feel before a complete freak out, total immobilization, a breakdown, or we stop breathing all together. In contrast, love has no cap. You'll never reach a point where you can't tolerate another ounce of love in your life...where you're full to the rim...where you just can't handle any more love...where you've simply run out of room in your heart. This is wonderful news, isn't it?
Love is inherently expansive, and the more love you feel the more you expand. And the more you expand, the wider your perspective. And the wider your perspective, the easier it becomes to see what's possible for you and your life. And, (stay with me) the easier it becomes to see what's possible for you and your life, what you desire become available to you, often with surprising ease and grace.
As Christopher Reeve said, "At first dreams seem impossible, then improbable, and eventually inevitable." It's a process, and when you're in the space where a dream seems impossible, you won't be able to fathom how it could ever become inevitable! But that's how it works. I've seen it time and time again, in my own life and in the lives of others.
Where ever you are on your personal journey, you are invited to come feel the love on October 2, and play within what's possible, both for you and the world. Give yourself a break and let your fears take a back seat for the night.
If you're not sure what you dream of, come ready to mingle with the dreams of others and watch your own dreams unfold before your very eyes. In the midst of all that's happening in the world, the 4th annual Dream Party is a unique opportunity to celebrate and be an integral part of the future we're creating together.
Come as you aspire to be, or simply come as you are. Either way, come. We look forward to celebrating with you on Friday, October 2!
We humans have a cap on our capacity to feel fear. I mean, really. There's only so much fear we can feel before a complete freak out, total immobilization, a breakdown, or we stop breathing all together. In contrast, love has no cap. You'll never reach a point where you can't tolerate another ounce of love in your life...where you're full to the rim...where you just can't handle any more love...where you've simply run out of room in your heart. This is wonderful news, isn't it?
Love is inherently expansive, and the more love you feel the more you expand. And the more you expand, the wider your perspective. And the wider your perspective, the easier it becomes to see what's possible for you and your life. And, (stay with me) the easier it becomes to see what's possible for you and your life, what you desire become available to you, often with surprising ease and grace.
As Christopher Reeve said, "At first dreams seem impossible, then improbable, and eventually inevitable." It's a process, and when you're in the space where a dream seems impossible, you won't be able to fathom how it could ever become inevitable! But that's how it works. I've seen it time and time again, in my own life and in the lives of others.
Where ever you are on your personal journey, you are invited to come feel the love on October 2, and play within what's possible, both for you and the world. Give yourself a break and let your fears take a back seat for the night.
If you're not sure what you dream of, come ready to mingle with the dreams of others and watch your own dreams unfold before your very eyes. In the midst of all that's happening in the world, the 4th annual Dream Party is a unique opportunity to celebrate and be an integral part of the future we're creating together.
Come as you aspire to be, or simply come as you are. Either way, come. We look forward to celebrating with you on Friday, October 2!
August 25, 2009
How to Distinguish a Dream from a Fantasy, and Why It's Important
How to Distinguish a Dream from a Fantasy, and Why It's Important
“As creators, your reality depends upon what you are willing to imagine and allow.” ~ Abraham Hicks
“At first dreams seem impossible, then improbable, and eventually inevitable.” ~ Christopher Reeve
Recently, on the Create Your Life! fan page, I posed the question: How is a dream different from a fantasy? A lively discussion followed, and inspired this in depth newsletter. I recommend reading it all the way through, and then sitting down with it for a re-read while holding a specific intention in mind. I am excited to share what I believe to be very important information for the outcome of your dreams, and I invite you to take full advantage of what's offered here.
Dreamers
The Wright Brothers, Thomas Edison, the first folks to set out towards space travel, or to prove that the Earth is round, are just a few examples of people who were surely thought by some to be "living in a fantasy world" only later to be revered as some of the world's greatest innovators. While we can't all be world-renowned inventors, we can (and do!) invent and create in every moment. Even as you're reading this you're likely inventing something about where this is going...
Does Your Dream Freak You In?
As a Dream Realization Coach, I am fully aware that when asked "What's your dream?" most people completely "freak in" (distinct from freaking out). Dreams are often thought to be very private, sometimes even under lock and key. Many people would sooner share their worst fear before they share what they dream of! Yet, at some point, everyone who shares a dream must come to terms with concerns that their dream is too big, too small, or too silly to share with others. With dreams, showing up at the starting line can feel like the riskiest part, and for this reason alone, many don't even begin!
An internal voice may say: "Be realistic." "That's impossible." "You'll never succeed." "Be reasonable." "Don't set your sights too high." "Don't rock the boat." "Things are good enough." And the list goes on...
But Tara, I have proof!
I'll bet you can muster up some pretty convincing evidence to support these self-sabotaging ideas. History, probability, and social norms dictate much of what is commonly agreed upon as out-of-reach or a fantasy.
While it might not be difficult for you to come up with convincing accounts as evidence of what you can't do, you might even go so far as to cite some highly esteemed research "proving" what can and can't be done. Yet, here's the catch --- even the most highly regarded researchers are limited to studying what HAS been done! With this in mind it's highly unlikely that such "evidence" is definitive in terms of what's possible for you, your life, and the world. Yet, it's not possible until it's declared so...by you!
Thomas Edison, during his trial and error process of inventing a light bulb, said: "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." I'd bet that some on the circa 1870 gossip circuit had Edison pegged as a bit of a wacko who lived in a fantasy world. Meanwhile, he kept at it, and the outcome disproved all prior theories that it couldn't be done!
Now, look around...how many light bulbs are in your house? More importantly, how many "light bulbs" are in your heart? It is my hope that as you read this, the message will shed new light on your dreams and maybe even flip the switch for a "light bulb moment" that's life altering!
What they have in common...
It's so important to note that both dreams and fantasies begin with imagination - not fancy degrees or truckloads of money, but imagination! Both dreams and fantasies are born from the realm of the imagined, and imagination is a tool that we are using all the time.
Have you filed your Dreams under Fantasy?
I define 'fantasy' as something that hasn't been done and is believed by the perceiver to be unrealistic or impossible. There's certainly nothing wrong with fantasy. What sets a dream apart from a fantasy is the believability and the level of desirability around the imagined idea manifesting into being.
Too often, dreams are mistaken for fantasies! You may have a very achievable dream, yet feel resigned and "make up" reasons why something won't work or can't happen, rather than apply that energy toward its creation.
In any given moment, we are either using imagination to create what we want or create what we don't want. Do you spend your precious energy imagining all the reasons it won't work or you can't have it, or do you direct your energy toward what you want?
The Power of Declaration
In the moment of declaring a dream as possible, it thereby ceases to be a fantasy. Dreams are born through declaration. Why? Because I said so! ☺
For those who have bravely declared their dream already, repetition creates a manifestation snowball effect! In dream sharing, the space for our dreams expands and supports a culture of dreaming. Sharing your dreams and celebrating the dreams of others is what the 4th annual Dream Party is all about!
It eases barriers that prevent you from fulfilling your dreams, and does so with fun and celebration! Who says it has to be hard?!? No matter how big, silly or small you may think your dreams are, The Dream Party helps you to see just how possible they really are. All you have to do is show up.
"The Work"
In my work as a coach, I've had the repeated pleasure of witnessing the beautiful transformation of what at first may seem impossible become a living dream. As this process unfolds, a sense of lightness and excitement pervades the dreamer, often propelling the dream into being with astounding ease. I believe most of "the work" is the process of overcoming the obstacles of fear and self-sabotage so that one can find themselves bravely standing in the moment of declaration. Do this in the course of an evening at The Dream Party!
What fear won't tell you...
Yes, dreaming takes a whole lot more courage than fantasy. But, what fear won't tell you is the cost of NOT going for it. Take some time to assess the cost of not setting out to live your dream and you'll likely see that the cost is high (too include always wondering what could have been). My wish for you is that your dreams will inspire you more than they intimidate! That no matter how big, small, or silly you think your dream is, that you will allow it to be the medium through which your light shines in the world!
Reserve your tickets now for the 4th annual Dream Party happening October 2!
“As creators, your reality depends upon what you are willing to imagine and allow.” ~ Abraham Hicks
“At first dreams seem impossible, then improbable, and eventually inevitable.” ~ Christopher Reeve
Recently, on the Create Your Life! fan page, I posed the question: How is a dream different from a fantasy? A lively discussion followed, and inspired this in depth newsletter. I recommend reading it all the way through, and then sitting down with it for a re-read while holding a specific intention in mind. I am excited to share what I believe to be very important information for the outcome of your dreams, and I invite you to take full advantage of what's offered here.
Dreamers
The Wright Brothers, Thomas Edison, the first folks to set out towards space travel, or to prove that the Earth is round, are just a few examples of people who were surely thought by some to be "living in a fantasy world" only later to be revered as some of the world's greatest innovators. While we can't all be world-renowned inventors, we can (and do!) invent and create in every moment. Even as you're reading this you're likely inventing something about where this is going...
Does Your Dream Freak You In?
As a Dream Realization Coach, I am fully aware that when asked "What's your dream?" most people completely "freak in" (distinct from freaking out). Dreams are often thought to be very private, sometimes even under lock and key. Many people would sooner share their worst fear before they share what they dream of! Yet, at some point, everyone who shares a dream must come to terms with concerns that their dream is too big, too small, or too silly to share with others. With dreams, showing up at the starting line can feel like the riskiest part, and for this reason alone, many don't even begin!
An internal voice may say: "Be realistic." "That's impossible." "You'll never succeed." "Be reasonable." "Don't set your sights too high." "Don't rock the boat." "Things are good enough." And the list goes on...
But Tara, I have proof!
I'll bet you can muster up some pretty convincing evidence to support these self-sabotaging ideas. History, probability, and social norms dictate much of what is commonly agreed upon as out-of-reach or a fantasy.
While it might not be difficult for you to come up with convincing accounts as evidence of what you can't do, you might even go so far as to cite some highly esteemed research "proving" what can and can't be done. Yet, here's the catch --- even the most highly regarded researchers are limited to studying what HAS been done! With this in mind it's highly unlikely that such "evidence" is definitive in terms of what's possible for you, your life, and the world. Yet, it's not possible until it's declared so...by you!
Thomas Edison, during his trial and error process of inventing a light bulb, said: "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." I'd bet that some on the circa 1870 gossip circuit had Edison pegged as a bit of a wacko who lived in a fantasy world. Meanwhile, he kept at it, and the outcome disproved all prior theories that it couldn't be done!
Now, look around...how many light bulbs are in your house? More importantly, how many "light bulbs" are in your heart? It is my hope that as you read this, the message will shed new light on your dreams and maybe even flip the switch for a "light bulb moment" that's life altering!
What they have in common...
It's so important to note that both dreams and fantasies begin with imagination - not fancy degrees or truckloads of money, but imagination! Both dreams and fantasies are born from the realm of the imagined, and imagination is a tool that we are using all the time.
Have you filed your Dreams under Fantasy?
I define 'fantasy' as something that hasn't been done and is believed by the perceiver to be unrealistic or impossible. There's certainly nothing wrong with fantasy. What sets a dream apart from a fantasy is the believability and the level of desirability around the imagined idea manifesting into being.
Too often, dreams are mistaken for fantasies! You may have a very achievable dream, yet feel resigned and "make up" reasons why something won't work or can't happen, rather than apply that energy toward its creation.
In any given moment, we are either using imagination to create what we want or create what we don't want. Do you spend your precious energy imagining all the reasons it won't work or you can't have it, or do you direct your energy toward what you want?
The Power of Declaration
In the moment of declaring a dream as possible, it thereby ceases to be a fantasy. Dreams are born through declaration. Why? Because I said so! ☺
For those who have bravely declared their dream already, repetition creates a manifestation snowball effect! In dream sharing, the space for our dreams expands and supports a culture of dreaming. Sharing your dreams and celebrating the dreams of others is what the 4th annual Dream Party is all about!
It eases barriers that prevent you from fulfilling your dreams, and does so with fun and celebration! Who says it has to be hard?!? No matter how big, silly or small you may think your dreams are, The Dream Party helps you to see just how possible they really are. All you have to do is show up.
"The Work"
In my work as a coach, I've had the repeated pleasure of witnessing the beautiful transformation of what at first may seem impossible become a living dream. As this process unfolds, a sense of lightness and excitement pervades the dreamer, often propelling the dream into being with astounding ease. I believe most of "the work" is the process of overcoming the obstacles of fear and self-sabotage so that one can find themselves bravely standing in the moment of declaration. Do this in the course of an evening at The Dream Party!
What fear won't tell you...
Yes, dreaming takes a whole lot more courage than fantasy. But, what fear won't tell you is the cost of NOT going for it. Take some time to assess the cost of not setting out to live your dream and you'll likely see that the cost is high (too include always wondering what could have been). My wish for you is that your dreams will inspire you more than they intimidate! That no matter how big, small, or silly you think your dream is, that you will allow it to be the medium through which your light shines in the world!
Reserve your tickets now for the 4th annual Dream Party happening October 2!
July 17, 2009
Take Your Vitamin G
Take Your Vitamin G
"If all you did was just look for things to appreciate you would live a joyous, spectacular life." ~ Abraham Hicks
"Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it." ~ William Arthur Ward
Positive Psychology research is mounting in support of the many ways an attitude of gratitude can promote a more joyful, connected, healthful, long life, full of nourishing relationships and well-being. I've read quite a bit on the topic. (For those of you interesting in reading and learning more about the science of happiness, email me and I'll gladly share a list of books and research to check out.)
You can experience the benefits now by simply making a point to focus even a few minutes a day on gratitude. Do this in whatever way works for you. Here are a few suggestions:
1. Write a letter of thanks to someone you feel grateful toward, then read your letter aloud to this person.
2. Keep a gratitude journal. Before bed, make a list of 10 or more things you're grateful for.
3. Make a game out of how many times you can say "thank you" in a day.
4. If, for example, you are focused on creating more physical or financial health, notice with gratitude all the ways your body/your money supports you.
5. Thank the Universe/Source/God/Goddess...
6. Do a gratitude dance. (The steps are up to you!)
7. Offer thanks to the plant or animal before eating.
8. Send a thank you note - stamp and everything.
IN OTHER NEWS...
The Dream Party™...
Now on YouTube (http://youtube.com/watch?v=Nl31fyOGWdY) & written up in The National Networker (http://thenationalnetworker.blogspot.com/2009/06/us-new-england-dream-party-is-unique.html)
Our New & Improved Website!
We're Jumping for Joy about our new & improved website! Visit us: http://CreateYourLifeInc.com
Become a fan of Create Your Life: http://www.facebook.com/CreateYourLife
Aspire Magazine, sponsor of The Dream Party, now offered in digital!
Be sure to read Tara's article: "The Power of Declaration" on pg. 18!
Tara presents at Pecha Kucha: Dreaming Out Loud
Come cheer me on! Pecha Kucha (Japanese for "chit-chat") is a PowerPoint presentation format devised by two architects in Tokyo in which presenters show 20 images and speak for 20 seconds per slide. Pecha Kucha (pronounced "pe-chak-cha") Night has spread around the globe. In exactly 6 minutes and 40 seconds, Tara will present: "Dreaming Out Loud" Details: All are welcome. Arrive early for meet & greet. Presentations begin at 20:20 EST (a.k.a. 8:20 p.m.) Bravo, 123 Empire St., Providence, RI
"If all you did was just look for things to appreciate you would live a joyous, spectacular life." ~ Abraham Hicks
"Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it." ~ William Arthur Ward
Positive Psychology research is mounting in support of the many ways an attitude of gratitude can promote a more joyful, connected, healthful, long life, full of nourishing relationships and well-being. I've read quite a bit on the topic. (For those of you interesting in reading and learning more about the science of happiness, email me and I'll gladly share a list of books and research to check out.)
You can experience the benefits now by simply making a point to focus even a few minutes a day on gratitude. Do this in whatever way works for you. Here are a few suggestions:
1. Write a letter of thanks to someone you feel grateful toward, then read your letter aloud to this person.
2. Keep a gratitude journal. Before bed, make a list of 10 or more things you're grateful for.
3. Make a game out of how many times you can say "thank you" in a day.
4. If, for example, you are focused on creating more physical or financial health, notice with gratitude all the ways your body/your money supports you.
5. Thank the Universe/Source/God/Goddess...
6. Do a gratitude dance. (The steps are up to you!)
7. Offer thanks to the plant or animal before eating.
8. Send a thank you note - stamp and everything.
IN OTHER NEWS...
The Dream Party™...
Now on YouTube (http://youtube.com/watch?v=Nl31fyOGWdY) & written up in The National Networker (http://thenationalnetworker.blogspot.com/2009/06/us-new-england-dream-party-is-unique.html)
Our New & Improved Website!
We're Jumping for Joy about our new & improved website! Visit us: http://CreateYourLifeInc.com
Become a fan of Create Your Life: http://www.facebook.com/CreateYourLife
Aspire Magazine, sponsor of The Dream Party, now offered in digital!
Be sure to read Tara's article: "The Power of Declaration" on pg. 18!
Tara presents at Pecha Kucha: Dreaming Out Loud
Come cheer me on! Pecha Kucha (Japanese for "chit-chat") is a PowerPoint presentation format devised by two architects in Tokyo in which presenters show 20 images and speak for 20 seconds per slide. Pecha Kucha (pronounced "pe-chak-cha") Night has spread around the globe. In exactly 6 minutes and 40 seconds, Tara will present: "Dreaming Out Loud" Details: All are welcome. Arrive early for meet & greet. Presentations begin at 20:20 EST (a.k.a. 8:20 p.m.) Bravo, 123 Empire St., Providence, RI
May 28, 2009
The Power of Declaration
* The Power of Declaration *
By Tara Sage Steeves
...as seen in Aspire Magazine/June 2009
"Most people really foul up at the crucial first step because they simply can't see how it's possible to get what they want - so they don't even let themselves want it. You must first decide what you want before your brain can figure out how to get it." Jack Canfield
We are in an extraordinary time - a time that challenges us to work together, ask new questions, put our best face forward, engage fully, and take action on our dreams. I received an email recently that I know speaks for many: "Tara, I don't know what I am meant to do, let alone how to get there! What do you do when you don't know what your dreams are?" A phenomenal question!
"I don't know"
From the question, it appears that "I don't know" is at the heart of the dilemma. We've all experienced times of not knowing, and these times can be an invitation to explore, surrender, reflect and ask new questions. Yet, sometimes "not knowing" provides us with a false sense of comfort, safety, and even the justification for self-sabotage. For example, "If I don't know, I can't possibly be expected to do anything about it. Yes, I think I'll stay... right...here." The catch is, the longer you stay there, the more challenging it becomes to visualize and stretch into the extraordinary realm of what's possible, and the more practiced you become at justifying "someday," "later" and "I can't."
It's a conundrum: We justify because we're afraid of the unknown, yet just beyond our fear, possibilities await. By pinpointing the voice of fear, we set the stage to move beyond it. Yoda said, "Named must your fear be before banish it you can." When you name it you frame it, I say.
If you listen very closely, you may hear a different voice - a brave, restless voice longing to be heard that reminds you of your power and capacity for boundless joy, creativity, satisfaction and accomplishment. Big, small, or silly, I believe dreams are the voice of your soul and living them is your gift to the world. In order to follow your dreams, you need to leave your safe haven.
"Meant to do"
I invite you to consider that the daunting notion of what you are "meant to do" boils down to the very manageable prospect of following your joy. I believe joy is our purpose and creating a life we love is our birthright. As a Dream Realization Coach, I echo Canfield's offering that the best way to streamline the realization of dreams and goals is to bravely and faithfully declare what you want prior to knowing how it will happen. To do this, we must move beyond the "meant to do" and step into the joyful power of declaration.
Declare & Share
The first bold step is to declare your dreams to yourself! With the support of gently prodding questions, you may discover that you do know what you want. I invite you to set aside some time to journal and reflect on these questions. Let yourself imagine: If you did know what you dreamed of, what would it be? (A trick question!) If you had all the love and money you could ever want, what would you do? If you could script your life to be unreasonably phenomenal, how would it go?
The answers to these questions can free you from your safe haven and propel you toward your dreams!
To review, Step One: Reveal what you desire in as much detail as you possibly can. Step Two: Declare it bravely and boldly with as many people as possible. Keep in mind that brave people are not fearless. If they were fearless, what would they need bravery for?
It is always an extraordinary gift to encourage one another to dream, and you don't have to be a coach to do it. To support the declaration process, I've created "Dream Out Loud", a free online community, to promote the sharing and discussion of life dreams and goals. You can also contribute to a culture of dreaming today by simply having a conversation with your partner, a friend, or even a stranger. Ask them what they dream of and be willing to share your dreams with them. When you share, do so with the confidence of knowing that a legacy of dreamers have gone before you, and trust that you are participating in a natural process supported by a creative universe.
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By Tara Sage Steeves
...as seen in Aspire Magazine/June 2009
"Most people really foul up at the crucial first step because they simply can't see how it's possible to get what they want - so they don't even let themselves want it. You must first decide what you want before your brain can figure out how to get it." Jack Canfield
We are in an extraordinary time - a time that challenges us to work together, ask new questions, put our best face forward, engage fully, and take action on our dreams. I received an email recently that I know speaks for many: "Tara, I don't know what I am meant to do, let alone how to get there! What do you do when you don't know what your dreams are?" A phenomenal question!
"I don't know"
From the question, it appears that "I don't know" is at the heart of the dilemma. We've all experienced times of not knowing, and these times can be an invitation to explore, surrender, reflect and ask new questions. Yet, sometimes "not knowing" provides us with a false sense of comfort, safety, and even the justification for self-sabotage. For example, "If I don't know, I can't possibly be expected to do anything about it. Yes, I think I'll stay... right...here." The catch is, the longer you stay there, the more challenging it becomes to visualize and stretch into the extraordinary realm of what's possible, and the more practiced you become at justifying "someday," "later" and "I can't."
It's a conundrum: We justify because we're afraid of the unknown, yet just beyond our fear, possibilities await. By pinpointing the voice of fear, we set the stage to move beyond it. Yoda said, "Named must your fear be before banish it you can." When you name it you frame it, I say.
If you listen very closely, you may hear a different voice - a brave, restless voice longing to be heard that reminds you of your power and capacity for boundless joy, creativity, satisfaction and accomplishment. Big, small, or silly, I believe dreams are the voice of your soul and living them is your gift to the world. In order to follow your dreams, you need to leave your safe haven.
"Meant to do"
I invite you to consider that the daunting notion of what you are "meant to do" boils down to the very manageable prospect of following your joy. I believe joy is our purpose and creating a life we love is our birthright. As a Dream Realization Coach, I echo Canfield's offering that the best way to streamline the realization of dreams and goals is to bravely and faithfully declare what you want prior to knowing how it will happen. To do this, we must move beyond the "meant to do" and step into the joyful power of declaration.
Declare & Share
The first bold step is to declare your dreams to yourself! With the support of gently prodding questions, you may discover that you do know what you want. I invite you to set aside some time to journal and reflect on these questions. Let yourself imagine: If you did know what you dreamed of, what would it be? (A trick question!) If you had all the love and money you could ever want, what would you do? If you could script your life to be unreasonably phenomenal, how would it go?
The answers to these questions can free you from your safe haven and propel you toward your dreams!
To review, Step One: Reveal what you desire in as much detail as you possibly can. Step Two: Declare it bravely and boldly with as many people as possible. Keep in mind that brave people are not fearless. If they were fearless, what would they need bravery for?
It is always an extraordinary gift to encourage one another to dream, and you don't have to be a coach to do it. To support the declaration process, I've created "Dream Out Loud", a free online community, to promote the sharing and discussion of life dreams and goals. You can also contribute to a culture of dreaming today by simply having a conversation with your partner, a friend, or even a stranger. Ask them what they dream of and be willing to share your dreams with them. When you share, do so with the confidence of knowing that a legacy of dreamers have gone before you, and trust that you are participating in a natural process supported by a creative universe.
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Pick up your copy of Aspire Magazine today for more thoughtful inspiration and resources for conscious living.
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