Don't Try, Do.

Transition Coaching & Event Planning, LLC Newsletter
Don't Try, Do.
January 2006
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in this issue
-- "Try" This
-- Don't Should On Me
-- Retreat! Retreat!


"Do, or do not. There is no 'try.'" -- Jedi Master Yoda


"Try" This
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As far as I'm concerned, "try" expired in high school algebra.

One of the simplest, most powerful ways to streamline goals and set a clearer standard for your life, is to consciously raise your awareness around what you say. Regardless of what it is you are working towards, raising your awareness around language can result in a tremendous, and immediate, increase in clarity and focus.

What level of commitment do you bring to an activity when you "try" to do it? How will you recognize and celebrate a "try"?

It's subtle, but with the use of one tiny little word, we manage to limit our beliefs, insult our abilities, communicate doubt, and cloud our thinking with ambiguity. There's no "try", only "do", regardless of the outcome of 'the doing'.

We don't try to start a business, we start a business. We don't try to exercise, we exercise. We don't try to learn something new, we learn it. We don't try to go to an appointment, we either go or we don't. (You get the idea.)

Deleting words like 'try' from your vocabulary takes time. To start, I OFFER A CHALLENGE: Make the commitment to simply raise your AWARENESS around the language that you use. When you catch yourself using 'try', 'should', 'kind of', 'sort of' etc. simply stop, notice it, and then rephrase your prior statement. Observe how it feels to hear your rephrased version out loud. Do this over and over again, as needed, until the words are no longer part of your vocabulary.

Incremental steps towards clearer language results in incremental steps towards clearer living!

Yoda said it best. "Do or do not, there is no 'try'."


Don't Should On Me
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If you "should" be doing something, then why aren't you?

"Should" is a loaded word. How much of your precious energy are you currently spending on what you "should" be doing? If it's truly something you need to do, then get to it! If not, then consider asking yourself, "Who says I should?" More often than not, a "should" is someone else's agenda, someone else's dream, someone else's guilty conscious, that we're engaging in an exhausting internal dialog with. If it's someone else's agenda, not yours, identifying and releasing yourself from the burden of this "should", can provide you with lightness of heart and more available energy for what's really important to you!

A 3-part exercise that can easily be done with a friend:

Part 1: Voice the "should".

You: I should ___________. / Friend: Why? / You: Because ___________. / Friend: So why haven't you? / You: Because ___________. (Listen closely to your own responses.)

Part 2: Make the "should" a "could."

You: I could _________. / Friend: So why haven't you? / You: Because ________. / (Listen closely to your own responses.)

Part 3: Make the "could" a "will", or "will not."

You: I will _________.


Retreat! Retreat!
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Everyone’s heard or been told at one point or another: “Complaining won’t help!” Well, WHAT IF COMPLAINING CAN HELP? What if, within each of our complaints, lies the secret to our greatest happiness?!?!?!

What would happen if you took the time to listen carefully to your complaints and, with some help, were able to turn each of them into clear requirements for your life? Imagine how empowering it would be to turn your complaints into requirements and, thereby, raise your personal standards!

Transforming complaints into requirements is just one of the life-enhancing tools that will be included in our upcoming Women’s Retreat Weekend. We hope you’ll join us for a weekend focused on strengthening the foundation that your goals and dreams are built upon...YOU!

To Link to More Information & How to Register, visit: http://transitioncoachinginc.com/workshops_retreats.htm


Contact Information
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email: tara@transitioncoachinginc.com
phone: 401.569.7017
web: http://www.transitioncoachinginc.com
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